Tag Archives: visualization

29: Understanding Emotional Triggers in Relationships

We are all emotional beings. Our feelings fluctuate through the day, every day like a carousel. Sometimes the feelings are good, sometimes numb and then there are those times when the emotions seem to burst through our logic and take us down a path to crazy town. These emotional triggers are not often played out externally, but more like an internal combustion leading to obsessive thinking, more stress and the desire to protect, defend or get even with the person who made the offense.


In this episode, we discuss eight (8) common ego assumptions that are playing a role in the emotional trigger and allowing it to fester in your mind and body. They are:

  1. Taking things personally – It is my fault or they meant to hurt me
  2. Polarized Thinking – Everything is black or white – no compromise
  3. Mind Reading – Assuming what others are thinking about you or assuming they should know what you are thinking
  4. Labeling a Person (or Group) based on one action – “He did this to me or to someone else, so he’s a terrible person”
  5. Overgeneralization – “All Men/Women are Non-Commital”
  6. Catastrophizing – “I will always be single” or “It will always be like this”
  7. Minimizing – “It isn’t so bad” – tolerating bad behavior or settling for less
  8. Should Statements – “I should date” or “I should be nicer” or “I should not waste money”

We give you a quick exercise to work with these assumptions to free your mind from their trappings and get clear on what is really true. Your ego will use one or a combination of these assumptions when you are triggered. Learn your go-to story and be empowered to drop the story and see the world through new eyes.

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26-Can Meditation Improve Your Love Life?

Do you have a hard time meditating or finding time to meditate? Did you know that meditation can lead to more peace of mind and empathy in relationships? In this episode we talk about what meditation is, the benefits of meditation and how it can improve your dating and love life relationships.

Episode 26: Can Meditation Improve Your Love Life?

If you are the type who ruminates over decisions in dating, why a person didn’t call you back or if they will ask you out again and wish you could just stop your mind from telling you negative stories, this is the episode for you. Meditation can help you be more compassionate to yourself, regulate your emotions better so you feel less anxiety and more joy. Having a clear mind instead of noisy mind on dates allows you to be more present and connected to your potential partner. We discuss the latest research from Harvard University on meditation and its affect on your mind and health and discuss how these influence your relationship life so you can attract the love of your life and not be obsessing about it along the way.

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22: Psychology of Online Dating

Have you tried dating online without success? Do you find it emotionally-challenging to put yourself out there and fear rejection? In this episode, we talk about the psychology of online dating. If you are tired of dating tips and want to take a deep dive into your psyche to discover how to shift your results to find love, this is the show for you –

Episode 22: The Psychology of Online Dating.

We discuss the expectations that you bring to online dating and the energy you have when you are interacting with the website or app and how they affect your results. Learn ways to shift your mindset and understand yourself so you aren’t falling back into the same old patterns. There is a deeper psychology based on Carl Jung’s work and the concept of projection that can explain why you are not finding the right one. Understand how your ego is choosing your dates without your conscious knowledge and how to wake up and make conscious choices for true love.

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Ep 19 – Creating vs the Fixing Mindset in Love and Life

Are you looking for problems to solve in your life and blaming yourself when things don’t go your way? In personal development, you can often get caught up in the fixing mentality and lost in healing yourself. Listen to this episode to learn how to face adversity in your dating and relationships (and life in general) in a more creative way.

If you feel exhausted from self-help, this is a great conversation on how to approach creating your life in a new way that feels good. Understand how the ego is always looking for problems and takes everything personally when “bad things happen to good people.” Get in touch with the divine force within to see obstacles and the way to create more in our life.

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Ep. 17 – Being Spiritual in a Material World


Do you have a great morning meditation and then feel all that bliss is lost when you are thrust into the material world? This podcast today is for you If you ever wondered how to be spiritual in the regular, typical life. When you go to work and interact with the rest of the people in the world, you may tend to fall into old patterns. We discuss how we wear masks to help us relate to others but that mask is not an authentic part of who we really are. We forget that other part of us – our spiritual center – when we believe we are the mask.

Explore if you are in a shadow career and not doing what your soul wants you to express in the world. Learn how you can connect more to your spiritual self through your everyday life so you can feel more grounded and less anxiety as you go through your day.

Watch this presentation on VIDEO on Youtube here https://youtu.be/X9fQFdLVXe4

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Ep. 13: Purpose of Dreams and Hidden Messages for Love

Did you dream about your ex last night or did you experience a wedding celebration? Do you know what it means when you dream of being in a dirty bathroom, show up naked at work or feel like you are drowning in water? These are all common dreams that have a deeper meaning for you and your personal development. Your dreams have a hidden message from your unconscious mind showing you exactly what is stopping you from having the love you want. Your dreams can also be a source of inspiration, creativity, and intuition as a powerful guide to your relationship life.

Dreams are also a way to connect to your inner wisdom, experience the true nature and higher consciousness. What a journey you are about to embark on when you learn to interpret your dreams. This information is based on Jungian Dreamwork and eastern wisdom.

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4: Creating a Love Mindset – Is positive thinking enough?

Everyone is talking about the “law of attraction” and using positive thinking to attract love in your life. In this episode, we discuss how to have the right mindset for love and it is much more than positive thinking and putting a vision board together. We go into a deeper psychology of the mind and how you can take your mindset of love to a more powerful level. If you want more, visit our website at Debi and Dr. Rob for free downloads and classes.