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33: Same Heartache Different Person? How to Break Free of Old Love Patterns

Have you felt that the same broken record in your dating life? If you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in relationships and experiencing the same heartbreaks with every person, we share solutions on how to break free and change your attraction to a person who is ready and willing for love.

EPISODE 33: Same Heartache, Different Person? How to Be Free of Old Love Patterns

We explain the animus (Inner Adam) and anima (Inner Eve) archetypes and how you relate to the opposite sex unconsciously. They represent the divine urge to connect and natural drive for love and relationships. This perfect image is clouded by your personal history and experience with your parents, men or women in your life. You learned how to relate to these humans and it impacts how you relate in your adult relationships.

Identify the pattern with men or women and that shows you how your Inner Adam is currently set up. You can change this archetype in your unconscious through visualizations and dreams and then change your relationships with men or women in a dramatic way.

Find out how you can free your mind so these ideas don’t stop you from opening up to a great love relationship.

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29: Understanding Emotional Triggers in Relationships

We are all emotional beings. Our feelings fluctuate through the day, every day like a carousel. Sometimes the feelings are good, sometimes numb and then there are those times when the emotions seem to burst through our logic and take us down a path to crazy town. These emotional triggers are not often played out externally, but more like an internal combustion leading to obsessive thinking, more stress and the desire to protect, defend or get even with the person who made the offense.


In this episode, we discuss eight (8) common ego assumptions that are playing a role in the emotional trigger and allowing it to fester in your mind and body. They are:

  1. Taking things personally – It is my fault or they meant to hurt me
  2. Polarized Thinking – Everything is black or white – no compromise
  3. Mind Reading – Assuming what others are thinking about you or assuming they should know what you are thinking
  4. Labeling a Person (or Group) based on one action – “He did this to me or to someone else, so he’s a terrible person”
  5. Overgeneralization – “All Men/Women are Non-Commital”
  6. Catastrophizing – “I will always be single” or “It will always be like this”
  7. Minimizing – “It isn’t so bad” – tolerating bad behavior or settling for less
  8. Should Statements – “I should date” or “I should be nicer” or “I should not waste money”

We give you a quick exercise to work with these assumptions to free your mind from their trappings and get clear on what is really true. Your ego will use one or a combination of these assumptions when you are triggered. Learn your go-to story and be empowered to drop the story and see the world through new eyes.

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26-Can Meditation Improve Your Love Life?

Do you have a hard time meditating or finding time to meditate? Did you know that meditation can lead to more peace of mind and empathy in relationships? In this episode we talk about what meditation is, the benefits of meditation and how it can improve your dating and love life relationships.

Episode 26: Can Meditation Improve Your Love Life?

If you are the type who ruminates over decisions in dating, why a person didn’t call you back or if they will ask you out again and wish you could just stop your mind from telling you negative stories, this is the episode for you. Meditation can help you be more compassionate to yourself, regulate your emotions better so you feel less anxiety and more joy. Having a clear mind instead of noisy mind on dates allows you to be more present and connected to your potential partner. We discuss the latest research from Harvard University on meditation and its affect on your mind and health and discuss how these influence your relationship life so you can attract the love of your life and not be obsessing about it along the way.

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22: Psychology of Online Dating

Have you tried dating online without success? Do you find it emotionally-challenging to put yourself out there and fear rejection? In this episode, we talk about the psychology of online dating. If you are tired of dating tips and want to take a deep dive into your psyche to discover how to shift your results to find love, this is the show for you –

Episode 22: The Psychology of Online Dating.

We discuss the expectations that you bring to online dating and the energy you have when you are interacting with the website or app and how they affect your results. Learn ways to shift your mindset and understand yourself so you aren’t falling back into the same old patterns. There is a deeper psychology based on Carl Jung’s work and the concept of projection that can explain why you are not finding the right one. Understand how your ego is choosing your dates without your conscious knowledge and how to wake up and make conscious choices for true love.

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Ep 19 – Creating vs the Fixing Mindset in Love and Life

Are you looking for problems to solve in your life and blaming yourself when things don’t go your way? In personal development, you can often get caught up in the fixing mentality and lost in healing yourself. Listen to this episode to learn how to face adversity in your dating and relationships (and life in general) in a more creative way.

If you feel exhausted from self-help, this is a great conversation on how to approach creating your life in a new way that feels good. Understand how the ego is always looking for problems and takes everything personally when “bad things happen to good people.” Get in touch with the divine force within to see obstacles and the way to create more in our life.

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4: Creating a Love Mindset – Is positive thinking enough?

Everyone is talking about the “law of attraction” and using positive thinking to attract love in your life. In this episode, we discuss how to have the right mindset for love and it is much more than positive thinking and putting a vision board together. We go into a deeper psychology of the mind and how you can take your mindset of love to a more powerful level. If you want more, visit our website at Debi and Dr. Rob for free downloads and classes.