Tag Archives: love mindset

32: Why People Have Problems Finding Love

Do you know why most people have problems finding love? In 2014, the number of single people in the United States surpassed the married people. If you are wondering why you are not meeting the right people, we discuss three key issues people have in relationships.

Episode 32: Why People Have Problems Finding Love

Three main areas are where most people trip themselves up. First, they are stuck in the past. Are you still hooked on an old love or your ex-spouse? Do you feel you cannot move on? Second, do you have fears about the future? Will a relationship mess up your life? Will you choose the wrong person? Or, are you only focused on the short-term in the present? Are you in a holding pattern, procrastinating, feeling discouraged and you aren’t taking any action at all?

Find out how you can free your mind so these ideas don’t stop you from opening up to a great love relationship.

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29: Understanding Emotional Triggers in Relationships

We are all emotional beings. Our feelings fluctuate through the day, every day like a carousel. Sometimes the feelings are good, sometimes numb and then there are those times when the emotions seem to burst through our logic and take us down a path to crazy town. These emotional triggers are not often played out externally, but more like an internal combustion leading to obsessive thinking, more stress and the desire to protect, defend or get even with the person who made the offense.


In this episode, we discuss eight (8) common ego assumptions that are playing a role in the emotional trigger and allowing it to fester in your mind and body. They are:

  1. Taking things personally – It is my fault or they meant to hurt me
  2. Polarized Thinking – Everything is black or white – no compromise
  3. Mind Reading – Assuming what others are thinking about you or assuming they should know what you are thinking
  4. Labeling a Person (or Group) based on one action – “He did this to me or to someone else, so he’s a terrible person”
  5. Overgeneralization – “All Men/Women are Non-Commital”
  6. Catastrophizing – “I will always be single” or “It will always be like this”
  7. Minimizing – “It isn’t so bad” – tolerating bad behavior or settling for less
  8. Should Statements – “I should date” or “I should be nicer” or “I should not waste money”

We give you a quick exercise to work with these assumptions to free your mind from their trappings and get clear on what is really true. Your ego will use one or a combination of these assumptions when you are triggered. Learn your go-to story and be empowered to drop the story and see the world through new eyes.

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27: Single Doesn’t Mean You Are Broken

Have you felt exhausted from self-help and trying to fix yourself because you are single? In this episode, we talk about the stigma of being single and how attitudes have shifted around marriage. We discuss the latest research on ideas around marriage and how it isn’t the key part of adulthood that it used to be.


In 1858, physician William Farr wrote “Marriage is a healthy estate. The single individual is more likely to be wrecked on his voyage than the lives joined in matrimony.” Times have changed and there are actually more single people in the U.S. right now than married people.

We explain how to change your own attitude around being single that is still embedded in your unconscious and influencing your life. Based on Carl Jung’s idea of individuation, there is a way to break free of the old patterns and have the love and relationship that you consciously want if you discover your true self.

Want to change your love story? Check out Debi’s free video series “How to Reach your Full Love Potential and Find an Extraordinary Relationship” by going to attractreallove.com

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How the Right Relationship Can Make You Rich – Episode 24

What if finding the right person would lead you to more wealth? Do you want an equal partner who inspires your dreams and a relationship that can foster growth and expansion of your full self-expression? Do you want to align your purpose with a higher relationship?


In this episode, we explain how you can create the ultimate “power couple” relationship to grow together, play together and get wealthy together. Understand why it is important to find the right match so you can fully reach your dreams and be happy and fulfilled.

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Ep 19 – Creating vs the Fixing Mindset in Love and Life

Are you looking for problems to solve in your life and blaming yourself when things don’t go your way? In personal development, you can often get caught up in the fixing mentality and lost in healing yourself. Listen to this episode to learn how to face adversity in your dating and relationships (and life in general) in a more creative way.

If you feel exhausted from self-help, this is a great conversation on how to approach creating your life in a new way that feels good. Understand how the ego is always looking for problems and takes everything personally when “bad things happen to good people.” Get in touch with the divine force within to see obstacles and the way to create more in our life.

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4: Creating a Love Mindset – Is positive thinking enough?

Everyone is talking about the “law of attraction” and using positive thinking to attract love in your life. In this episode, we discuss how to have the right mindset for love and it is much more than positive thinking and putting a vision board together. We go into a deeper psychology of the mind and how you can take your mindset of love to a more powerful level. If you want more, visit our website at Debi and Dr. Rob for free downloads and classes.