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30: Getting Over Your Ex and Moving On To Real Love

Are you a prisoner of your relationship past? Do you pine over love lost? Are you stuck in the past, wishing for that old flame to return? In this episode, we discuss getting over past relationships and how to have closure to move on to real love.

EPISODE 30: Getting Over Your Ex and Moving On To Real Love

We review the O.C.D. of looking at the past and how your ex is hooked into your emotions. The “Reverberating Circuits” of your brain are creating a false reality of what that love was and could be for you. Learn about love unrequited in pop culture movies such as “There’s Something About Mary” or “Sideways” and how the main characters found closure and finally resolution to move on.

We share some tips on how to let go, get beyond the past and reclaim your power to create a new love future with the love of your life.

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29: Understanding Emotional Triggers in Relationships

We are all emotional beings. Our feelings fluctuate through the day, every day like a carousel. Sometimes the feelings are good, sometimes numb and then there are those times when the emotions seem to burst through our logic and take us down a path to crazy town. These emotional triggers are not often played out externally, but more like an internal combustion leading to obsessive thinking, more stress and the desire to protect, defend or get even with the person who made the offense.


In this episode, we discuss eight (8) common ego assumptions that are playing a role in the emotional trigger and allowing it to fester in your mind and body. They are:

  1. Taking things personally – It is my fault or they meant to hurt me
  2. Polarized Thinking – Everything is black or white – no compromise
  3. Mind Reading – Assuming what others are thinking about you or assuming they should know what you are thinking
  4. Labeling a Person (or Group) based on one action – “He did this to me or to someone else, so he’s a terrible person”
  5. Overgeneralization – “All Men/Women are Non-Commital”
  6. Catastrophizing – “I will always be single” or “It will always be like this”
  7. Minimizing – “It isn’t so bad” – tolerating bad behavior or settling for less
  8. Should Statements – “I should date” or “I should be nicer” or “I should not waste money”

We give you a quick exercise to work with these assumptions to free your mind from their trappings and get clear on what is really true. Your ego will use one or a combination of these assumptions when you are triggered. Learn your go-to story and be empowered to drop the story and see the world through new eyes.

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27: Single Doesn’t Mean You Are Broken

Have you felt exhausted from self-help and trying to fix yourself because you are single? In this episode, we talk about the stigma of being single and how attitudes have shifted around marriage. We discuss the latest research on ideas around marriage and how it isn’t the key part of adulthood that it used to be.


In 1858, physician William Farr wrote “Marriage is a healthy estate. The single individual is more likely to be wrecked on his voyage than the lives joined in matrimony.” Times have changed and there are actually more single people in the U.S. right now than married people.

We explain how to change your own attitude around being single that is still embedded in your unconscious and influencing your life. Based on Carl Jung’s idea of individuation, there is a way to break free of the old patterns and have the love and relationship that you consciously want if you discover your true self.

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Ep 21- Facing the Fear of Failure

Do you hold back on taking risks because you are afraid to make mistakes or that things won’t work out? Have you wanted to start a project but feel fear that it won’t work out. In this episode, we speak about the “Imposter Syndrome” and the research on how people don’t feel like they fit in with the successful people around them. They rate their self-identity by their past experience and never feel like they are enough. If you are single, think about this topic related to your dating life, not only in business.

Episode 21: Facing the Fear of Failure

Take the test to see if you have the imposter syndrome and how to face the fear of failure so you can have more success in your life. See how the EGO is really the imposter in your life and how to transcend the ego so you can move beyond a fear of failure and transform your life.

Are you playing to win or playing not to lose?

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