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31: Answering The 3 Big Questions in Life

Some people live their lives in quiet desperation, while others take the road less traveled and ask the big questions in life. In this episode we get into a deep philosophical conversation about the meaning of life, purpose and the three big questions everyone needs to answer:

  1. What do I do about Love?
  2. What do I do about Money?
  3. What do I do about God?


When you do personal development work, it may feel as though everyone else has it all figured out. They have the relationship you want, the money or success you want, the dream career, etc. You may even think that everyone is more enlightened than you. We discuss how no one gets out of life without answering these questions and how you can begin to answer them for yourself. Do you have the love you want? Are you happy with your career? Do you know your life’s purpose? What do you believe about your relationship to God or the universe? We probably awaken more questions than answers but the discussion is definitely one that brings everything into focus and makes you think.

Why take the path to answer these in a deep way? Is the journey to a greater life filled with more problems? We believe that finding these answers in ourselves is the greatest journey.

Quote by Rilke:

If we only arrange our life in accordance with the principle which tells us that we must always trust in the difficult, then what now appears to us as the most alien will become our most intimate and trusted experience. How could we forget those ancient myths that stand at the beginning of all races, the myths about dragons that at the last moment are transformed into princesses? Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage.

– Rainer Marie Rilke

29: Understanding Emotional Triggers in Relationships

We are all emotional beings. Our feelings fluctuate through the day, every day like a carousel. Sometimes the feelings are good, sometimes numb and then there are those times when the emotions seem to burst through our logic and take us down a path to crazy town. These emotional triggers are not often played out externally, but more like an internal combustion leading to obsessive thinking, more stress and the desire to protect, defend or get even with the person who made the offense.


In this episode, we discuss eight (8) common ego assumptions that are playing a role in the emotional trigger and allowing it to fester in your mind and body. They are:

  1. Taking things personally – It is my fault or they meant to hurt me
  2. Polarized Thinking – Everything is black or white – no compromise
  3. Mind Reading – Assuming what others are thinking about you or assuming they should know what you are thinking
  4. Labeling a Person (or Group) based on one action – “He did this to me or to someone else, so he’s a terrible person”
  5. Overgeneralization – “All Men/Women are Non-Commital”
  6. Catastrophizing – “I will always be single” or “It will always be like this”
  7. Minimizing – “It isn’t so bad” – tolerating bad behavior or settling for less
  8. Should Statements – “I should date” or “I should be nicer” or “I should not waste money”

We give you a quick exercise to work with these assumptions to free your mind from their trappings and get clear on what is really true. Your ego will use one or a combination of these assumptions when you are triggered. Learn your go-to story and be empowered to drop the story and see the world through new eyes.

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28: Breaking the Cycle of Just Enough in Love and Success

Are you making just enough money? Getting just enough dates who are just enough but not your ideal? In this episode, we explore how your mind is projecting “just enough” based on your past experiences and how it keeps you in a cycle of disappointment and even frustration.

EPISODE 28: Breaking the Cycle of Just Enough

Instead of thinking you are doing something wrong? What if the “just enough” cycle is pointing you in the right direction of finding your potential? Understand to work with your mind using higher spiritual knowledge of the true nature of reality so that you can break free and create the life you choose instead the life that is limited by the past. This episode will inspire you to live your dreams, go for what you really want and start to believe that anything is possible.

Want to change your love story? Check out Debi’s free video series “How to Reach your Full Love Potential and Find an Extraordinary Relationship” by going to attractreallove.com

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Ep 21- Facing the Fear of Failure

Do you hold back on taking risks because you are afraid to make mistakes or that things won’t work out? Have you wanted to start a project but feel fear that it won’t work out. In this episode, we speak about the “Imposter Syndrome” and the research on how people don’t feel like they fit in with the successful people around them. They rate their self-identity by their past experience and never feel like they are enough. If you are single, think about this topic related to your dating life, not only in business.

Episode 21: Facing the Fear of Failure

Take the test to see if you have the imposter syndrome and how to face the fear of failure so you can have more success in your life. See how the EGO is really the imposter in your life and how to transcend the ego so you can move beyond a fear of failure and transform your life.

Are you playing to win or playing not to lose?

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