Monthly Archives: January 2018

29: Understanding Emotional Triggers in Relationships



We are all emotional beings. Our feelings fluctuate through the day, every day like a carousel. Sometimes the feelings are good, sometimes numb and then there are those times when the emotions seem to burst through our logic and take us down a path to crazy town. These emotional triggers are not often played out externally, but more like an internal combustion leading to obsessive thinking, more stress and the desire to protect, defend or get even with the person who made the offense.

EPISODE 29: UNDERSTANDING EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS IN RELATIONSHIPS

In this episode, we discuss eight (8) common ego assumptions that are playing a role in the emotional trigger and allowing it to fester in your mind and body. They are:

  1. Taking things personally – It is my fault or they meant to hurt me
  2. Polarized Thinking – Everything is black or white – no compromise
  3. Mind Reading – Assuming what others are thinking about you or assuming they should know what you are thinking
  4. Labeling a Person (or Group) based on one action – “He did this to me or to someone else, so he’s a terrible person”
  5. Overgeneralization – “All Men/Women are Non-Commital”
  6. Catastrophizing – “I will always be single” or “It will always be like this”
  7. Minimizing – “It isn’t so bad” – tolerating bad behavior or settling for less
  8. Should Statements – “I should date” or “I should be nicer” or “I should not waste money”

We give you a quick exercise to work with these assumptions to free your mind from their trappings and get clear on what is really true. Your ego will use one or a combination of these assumptions when you are triggered. Learn your go-to story and be empowered to drop the story and see the world through new eyes.

Want to change your love story? Check out Debi’s free video series “How to Reach your Full Love Potential and Find an Extraordinary Relationship” by going to attractreallove.com

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28: Breaking the Cycle of Just Enough in Love and Success



Are you making just enough money? Getting just enough dates who are just enough but not your ideal? In this episode, we explore how your mind is projecting “just enough” based on your past experiences and how it keeps you in a cycle of disappointment and even frustration.

EPISODE 28: Breaking the Cycle of Just Enough

Instead of thinking you are doing something wrong? What if the “just enough” cycle is pointing you in the right direction of finding your potential? Understand to work with your mind using higher spiritual knowledge of the true nature of reality so that you can break free and create the life you choose instead the life that is limited by the past. This episode will inspire you to live your dreams, go for what you really want and start to believe that anything is possible.

Want to change your love story? Check out Debi’s free video series “How to Reach your Full Love Potential and Find an Extraordinary Relationship” by going to attractreallove.com

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27: Single Doesn’t Mean You Are Broken



Have you felt exhausted from self-help and trying to fix yourself because you are single? In this episode, we talk about the stigma of being single and how attitudes have shifted around marriage. We discuss the latest research on ideas around marriage and how it isn’t the key part of adulthood that it used to be.

EPISODE 27: SINGLE DOESN’T MEAN YOU ARE BROKEN

In 1858, physician William Farr wrote “Marriage is a healthy estate. The single individual is more likely to be wrecked on his voyage than the lives joined in matrimony.” Times have changed and there are actually more single people in the U.S. right now than married people.

We explain how to change your own attitude around being single that is still embedded in your unconscious and influencing your life. Based on Carl Jung’s idea of individuation, there is a way to break free of the old patterns and have the love and relationship that you consciously want if you discover your true self.

Want to change your love story? Check out Debi’s free video series “How to Reach your Full Love Potential and Find an Extraordinary Relationship” by going to attractreallove.com

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